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Just Being

Posted by on Aug 17, 2015 in Uncategorized | 44 comments

Not so long ago, I was in one part of the house while my husband was relaxing in his chair looking at something on his iPhone. Suddenly,  out of the corner of my eye,  I saw a spider racing up the wall.  I let out an involuntary scream followed by an urgent call to my husband, “Honey – You need to kill this spider”.   (I have made it clear that in our home – this is his job and his job alone).   My husband just sat there totally engrossed in reading.  With more urgency I demanded, “Honey, don’t just sit there.  You need to move quickly.  This spider is fast.” Don’t just sit there, do something…..Sometimes, I...

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It’s raining but I’m thankful

Posted by on Mar 29, 2012 in Uncategorized | 71 comments

It’s raining today (hard), taxes are due (argh!) and Werner has been out of town 1 day too long (sigh).   I thought it would be good to list the things that I’m thankful for. Running water (a missions team from our church, Werner included, has been going without for 3 days) A warm, comfortable home A car that has gas in it Starbucks and the comfort of a familiar, coffee-fragranced, relaxed environment Random text messages that make me smile from friends Chatting on the phone with my kids and getting caught up Extended family who really know you and still love you People who enthusiastically lend a hand Girlfriend-time scheduled on my calendar Living in one of the...

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12 Secrets About Pastor’s Wives

Posted by on Mar 5, 2012 in Uncategorized | 159 comments

I recently came across a list of “10 Secrets About Your Pastor”.  It was great.  After reading it, I was somehow  compelled to write this one about pastor’s wives.  I know these are not true in every case, but I believe they are true much of the time.  I welcome your feedback.  Are you surprised?  Do you disagree?  Would you add any?  What about staff Pastor’s wives –  What would you add or take away? 12 Secrets About Pastor’s Wives We don’t always know whom to trust.  People have tried to get close to us for many reasons and some have betrayed us.  When we meet new people at church  we wonder whether they are safe, how...

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Passive Aggressive No More

Posted by on Mar 1, 2012 in Uncategorized | 5,132 comments

I’m on a “Let’s-stamp-out-passive-aggressiveness ” kick.    Why can’t we just say what we mean, ask for what we want and be honest when we don’t want something?   Let me be the first to say that I resort to these “avoid the tension” tactics at times.  If you know me, you know that I am verbally more direct than most although I can do the “nice girl” thing with the best of the them.  I’m well trained – I was raised in church. OK – let’s back up.  What is passive aggressive behavior?  At the risk of over-simplifying the definition, it is appearing to go along with something outwardly,...

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Adult Manifesto

Posted by on Jan 31, 2012 in Uncategorized | 56 comments

I have been trying to figure out what it means to be an adult.  This is not an easy  thing to define.  Wishing people would “grow up” is one thing;  defining what is meant  by the expression is another.   To that end, I’ve been working on a writing down the characteristics of maturity.  This list is by no means exhaustive, nor is it completed,  but I think it’s time to share it.  I call the “Adult Manifesto”.     I invite your feedback. I am committed to self-growth no matter how painful.  I am aware of the human tendency to have personal blind-spots and will therefore, carefully and prayerfully examine my own life and my...

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Your Choice

Posted by on Jan 18, 2012 in Uncategorized | 10 comments

It’s true that hard times can lead to personal growth but it’s not always true. What I mean is, there is a relationship between pain and growth but the relationship does not necessarily work both ways. Adversity is required for maturity but maturity is not always the consequence of adversity. This reality was recently brought home to me in a very powerful way. My parents are a potent example of overcomers who have become stronger and more effective because of the trauma they encountered in their lives. Both my father and my mother know the suffering of war and trauma in a very personal way. In the aftermath of the II World War, my father at age 13, was transported...

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