Just Being

Posted by on Aug 17, 2015 in Uncategorized | 56 comments

Not so long ago, I was in one part of the house while my husband was relaxing in his chair looking at something on his iPhone. Suddenly,  out of the corner of my eye,  I saw a spider racing up the wall.  I let out an involuntary scream followed by an urgent call to my husband, “Honey – You need to kill this spider”.   (I have made it clear that in our home – this is his job and his job alone).   My husband just sat there totally engrossed in reading.  With more urgency I demanded, “Honey, don’t just...

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It’s raining but I’m thankful

Posted by on Mar 29, 2012 in Uncategorized | 79 comments

It’s raining today (hard), taxes are due (argh!) and Werner has been out of town 1 day too long (sigh).   I thought it would be good to list the things that I’m thankful for. Running water (a missions team from our church, Werner included, has been going without for 3 days) A warm, comfortable home A car that has gas in it Starbucks and the comfort of a familiar, coffee-fragranced, relaxed environment Random text messages that make me smile from friends Chatting on the phone with my kids and getting caught up Extended family who really...

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12 Secrets About Pastor’s Wives

Posted by on Mar 5, 2012 in Uncategorized | 176 comments

I recently came across a list of “10 Secrets About Your Pastor”.  It was great.  After reading it, I was somehow  compelled to write this one about pastor’s wives.  I know these are not true in every case, but I believe they are true much of the time.  I welcome your feedback.  Are you surprised?  Do you disagree?  Would you add any?  What about staff Pastor’s wives –  What would you add or take away? 12 Secrets About Pastor’s Wives We don’t always know whom to trust.  People have tried to get...

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Passive Aggressive No More

Posted by on Mar 1, 2012 in Uncategorized | 5,257 comments

I’m on a “Let’s-stamp-out-passive-aggressiveness ” kick.    Why can’t we just say what we mean, ask for what we want and be honest when we don’t want something?   Let me be the first to say that I resort to these “avoid the tension” tactics at times.  If you know me, you know that I am verbally more direct than most although I can do the “nice girl” thing with the best of the them.  I’m well trained – I was raised in church. OK – let’s back up.  What is...

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Adult Manifesto

Posted by on Jan 31, 2012 in Uncategorized | 57 comments

I have been trying to figure out what it means to be an adult.  This is not an easy  thing to define.  Wishing people would “grow up” is one thing;  defining what is meant  by the expression is another.   To that end, I’ve been working on a writing down the characteristics of maturity.  This list is by no means exhaustive, nor is it completed,  but I think it’s time to share it.  I call the “Adult Manifesto”.     I invite your feedback. I am committed to self-growth no matter how painful.  I am...

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Your Choice

Posted by on Jan 18, 2012 in Uncategorized | 10 comments

It’s true that hard times can lead to personal growth but it’s not always true. What I mean is, there is a relationship between pain and growth but the relationship does not necessarily work both ways. Adversity is required for maturity but maturity is not always the consequence of adversity. This reality was recently brought home to me in a very powerful way. My parents are a potent example of overcomers who have become stronger and more effective because of the trauma they encountered in their lives. Both my father and my mother know the...

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More Grace

Posted by on Oct 21, 2011 in Uncategorized | 6 comments

Everyone is so uptight these days! Recently,  while on vacation, my husband and I got on a city bus.  It was one of those buses that has sensors which disallow the closing of the vehicle doors if someone is standing too close.  It happened to be the route to the airport and we were crowded in amongst people and suitcases.  After a stop to take on even more passengers,  the last few people did not make it inside the sensor line. In spite of the bus driver’s pleas to move away from the doors, these hapless individuals were confused (there...

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Posted by on Sep 8, 2011 in Uncategorized | 8 comments

Everyone always wants to hear my carwash story.  I have mixed feelings about sharing it.  On one hand, it’s  rather funny and I love to laugh.  On the other hand, it’s embarrassing.  I always emphasize that it happened many years ago.  I remember the approximate date by the fact that my niece was a baby in a car seat at the time.    She is now an adolescent. My sister was visiting from out of town with my niece.   We were driving around and I decided to go through the car wash.  Our neighborhood car wash has an awkward...

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Pizza with Crust?

Posted by on Aug 26, 2011 in Uncategorized | 6 comments

Early in our marriage we invited over a bunch of people for home-made pizza.  I worked diligently to make preparations for our impromptu party.    Overcoming my qualms about baking with yeast, I followed the instructions to the letter – kneading the dough, maintaining perfect temperatures, waiting while it rose.  Triumphant when it did, I rolled out the dough, applied the toppings and waited for my masterpiece to emerge from the oven.  I had timed it perfectly so the guests were ready, soft-drinks in hand when it came out of the...

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Never good enough

Posted by on Aug 23, 2011 in Uncategorized | 7 comments

I wish that we could all have a more realistic image of ourselves. I’m a bit bitter about the fact that we as women have been so completely indoctrinated about what we should look like – what we weigh, our hair, our body parts, everything about our physical attributes. Ok – I’m more then a bit bitter. I find it sad that we spend so much time worrying about these things. I’m as guilty as anyone. I don’t know that I’ve ever been completely content with who I am. No matter what season of my life,...

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